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“Which passages are very clear?” I repeated. I was sitting next to a Christian on an airplane and the topic of homosexuality came up. I get so tired of people throwing around the word “biblical” or the phrase “The Bible says…” when what they really mean is “I believe this and I believe that, and I’m going to rubber stamp my assumptions with the word biblical to show that my beliefs are correct. When Christians say “Jesus says it’s wrong,” it only reveals that they haven’t paid close attention to the actual life and teaching of Jesus. Jesus never explicitly mentions homosexuality. And it says more about the state of Evangelical thinking (and humor) than it does about sex difference in Christian anthropology.
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And the cute little rhythmic phrase “Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve” isn’t actually cute. We can’t just assume it to be true based on the mere existence of Adam and Eve as male and female. But we get this from a detailed study of the text. Indeed, I believe that Adam and Eve's sex-difference lays the foundation for all future marriages (and Jesus thinks so too Matt 19).
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I mean, maybe Adam and Eve are an everlasting paradigm for marriage. Just because the first human pair were male and female does not intrinsically mean that every single marriage after them must be between male and female. But it’s still hanging on in the fringes of conservative Christianity, so I want to go on record saying: don’t ever use this argument again. Most people under 40 don’t use this argument anymore, so I hesitate even addressing it. God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve Straight Christians really need to get past the whole “gay sex is creepy” argument. Reducing homosexuality to a discussion about sex is wrong-headed, naïve, and dehumanizing. My dear straight friends, think about it: How much does your heterosexuality have to do with sex? Are you still straight even when you’re not having sex? Or when you’re not thinking about sex? Well guess what, gay people are still gay even when they’re not having or thinking about sex. Homosexuality is about so much more than just sex. Does that mean that heterosexual kissing is sin? My 6 year old son thinks that it’s creepy when a man and woman kiss. Eggplant creeps me out, but that doesn’t mean it’s a sin for you to stuff your face with some hot roasted Eggplant (Yuck!!). Just because something may creep you out this doesn’t mean that it’s a sin. It's not only subjective, but it’s an ethical anemic reason for saying same-sex relations are wrong. The “creepiness factor” is a terrible reason for believing something is wrong. For what it’s worth, I don’t even like the phrase “homosexuality is a sin.” I explain why in my book People to Be Loved. In any case, here are my top 5 bad reasons for holding to a non-affirming view of same-sex relations. There may be good reasons for believing that homosexuality is a sin, but there are also some very bad reasons.